Happy New Year!
This one of my favorite times of the year. You’re thinking “Oh she must love the holidays, the frost covered trees, snowcapped mountains.” Nope. This is goal-setting time and anyone who knows me knows I love goals! My heart races with excitement as I draft idea maps, pro/con lists, and KPI’s with multicolored pens and graph paper. Letting my zeal take hold a few weeks ago, I grabbed a morning coffee and sat down to make my 2016 Goal List. But when I was done, instead of finding a bright list of things I hope to accomplish over the next 365 days I found a rather long list of 2015’s failures. Not exactly what I was going for.
Once, long ago, someone told me that being an adult meant choosing who you wanted to be. Adults make choices about the things that are important to them and it cannot be everything. Decide what defines you, focus your energy, and make decisions accordingly. This is how you honor your true self. Unfortunately honoring your true self sometimes means pissing other people off, but if that leads to a happier, healthier, more fulfilled you it’s all worth it. When I heard this it really resonated with me and I decided to make a list helping me to focus on who I was, what was important to me, and who I wanted to be. Then I started to make decisions based on that list. Yes, it was a difficult change but ultimately it leads to a happier and healthier me.
What does all this have to do with my 2016 Goal List? Looking at all the things I wanted to accomplish and simply didn’t in 2015 made me wonder: had I gotten away from my true self? Had I stopped adhering to that list of things that defined me? Or maybe my true self had changed and the definition of who I was needed to change, too? I am older and, theoretically, wiser. It would make sense that I have grown and found value in some new things. Maybe I had overextended myself or set too high of expectations, I’ve been known to do that. Whatever had happened, one thing was clear: I’d spent that past year neglecting the relationship I have with myself. I’d let a busy year full of change, both wonderful and heartbreaking, distract me. Knowing that I need to reconnect with who I am, my 2016 New Year’s Resolution is:
Do less, enjoy more, connect, and evaluate.
First up is evaluate. For the month of January I will be evaluating who I am at this point in my life. The things I know I am, the things I think I am, and the things I want to be. In addition, I’ll be writing down everything I do, taking a hard look of why I’m doing it, and deciding if it’s something that helps me be me, whoever that is. One thing is for sure, my heat still skips a beat at the thought of lists with multicolored pens on graph paper!